Following a meeting of the Norwich writing group, Teresa Smith reflects on the power of connection.
Sitting in the Norwich Cathedral refectory, awaiting the rest of the group to arrive, Jeni and I observed how difficult it can be to feel truly connected to people these days. There is often a general chatter and busyness to life that can make deep connections something of a luxury, and many of us might choose to seek times of solitude as a break from that incessant chatter that surrounds us at times. We can easily be surrounded by so many yet meaningfully connected to so few.
How does connection present itself in our writing group?
The very act of writing alongside others, as a human-centric exercise, connects people to people. Writing groups are living, growing things, and whilst ours is usually bound by some structure, it also has a flexibility that makes it a safe and comfortable space. Every one of our Writing Teacher’s meetings contains writing, reading, sharing and thinking, and it is through these processes that we develop connections.
In writing alongside each other we connect through the process of writing. Eyes catch another’s gaze as heads look up in thought, then they flit away again as another line arrives and needs to be written down. There is the physical act of connecting around a table to eat and drink and write and a mindful act of connection in terms of belonging to the group.
In writing around a theme, we are provided with a starting point that everybody can bring their own individual experience to, yet at the same time, it does the job of connecting our assorted ideas together. There are the monthly themes (which are varying) and, as a Writing Teachers’ group there is also an overarching theme (always) of teaching, children, and teaching children writing. In Saturday’s meeting our starting point was, in a rather serendipitous way for this piece, ‘people we know’.
In sharing our writing with each other we connect through understanding a little bit more about each other. Reading our writing aloud creates a vulnerability that, in turn, creates trust in those listening. We do it because it gives us new ideas, ignites conversations and is a way into others’ values and views. Writing group diversity is a wonderful thing when people from different places and spaces come together and connect.
How is connection important for writing children?
In terms of teaching writing, I fear it is all too easy to exacerbate the misconception that writing is a lonesome act. Yet if we engage with the idea that writing is not – or should not always be – a solitary event, that it can build community and connection with others, then we would be more likely to do it justice in our classrooms.
I remember my own teacher introducing me to a penfriend scheme when I must have been about ten years old, and I realise now how powerful that act was. I still keep the box of letters received from that penfriend in Athens, as we took part in the regular to-ing and fro-ing of snail-mail written connection across those 5000 of so air miles. It offered a lesson about connection, and patience! We did occasionally make telephone calls to each other, but they weren’t nearly so magical as the letters that would be waiting for me every so often on the kitchen table when I came home from school.
Whilst teachers and children these days may not choose to develop writing connections in that same way, it is still important to understand writing as a powerful alternative to talking for connection. In that sense, if taught, managed and presented carefully, it is the perfect inclusive vehicle for building all manner of relationships and connections between children, and between children and adults.
Final thoughts
One long-time member of our group, Stephen, is relocating this month, and we will certainly miss his presence and contribution to our group. We joked that he’ll have a new writing group set up in his new location within a week, and even though we all know he will have so many other priorities, the idea is sound, as a writing group is an ideal way to connect, find new friends and build relationships. Maybe writing will continue to connect Stephen to us, even across the miles.
Let’s always remember that writing can bring and bind people together, and thinking of writing as an act of human connection is a powerful fundamental for any teacher of writing. It certainly binds our writing group together for a couple of hours every month, through cake, coffee, talking, writing, reading, sharing and thinking, and it is does all of that wonderfully, whilst the eternal chatter of the refectory continues all around us.